Saturday, February 12, 2005
What a week it's been. Well, I really didn't expect my first year of Chinese New Year celebrations with Nic to be so eventful. I had initially expected it to be just two days of hols for us. No big deal. Besides, he just came back from his 1-week overseas trip and I thought he wouldn't be in the mood for much partying. In hindsight, I think it was the short separation that made it so cosy and fun to be around each other again. Anyway, I didn't really expect much. I thought I would be lucky if I can just slip in a (window :) ) shopping session at LV or Gucci. Not that I have anything to buy, nor do I have the means to even if I have my eye on anything, just that I love looking at pretty things. But be pleasantly surprised by the cards reality deals you when you don't expect anything. Now I know what it means to expect something when you least expect it. Fantastic.
One revelation - Absence does make my heart grow fonder of him and also makes me realise how much I miss being around him. Suffice it to say it was some reunion on Monday night. haha... so lots of kissing and passionate sex just to make up for the lack of physical intimacy the last week. He said it's all he's been thinking about since he touched down. I was slightly upset with this remark, and held his face and asked him in all seriousness, ' thinking about this or me?'. And he cleverly replied, ' this with you' and tried to distract me by resuming his kissing. I wasn't at all distracted but well, what's new? The average guy thinks about sex all the time and what's more he's been starving for about one week. I wasn't about to take issue with him over this and ruin what would pan out to be a perfect evening. And luckily I didn't. Actually I know he didn't mean it this way, he's just too delirious to think straight. He playfully chided me for teasing him with all those photos I sent and only to come back so late when he had expected to see me at home, and whined some more about me not prioritising him over a night out with the gfs and was very upset that I didn't miss him as much he missed me etc etc... Nothing a good long kiss can't fix.
And he very nicely offered to send me to work the next day even though he did not have to go to the office that day, even though it meant he had to deprive his already sleep-and-rest- deprived body (he thinks his biological clock is all messed up, all thanks to the travelling and jet lag. well I tell him he's getting old... haha) of more hours of sleep and rest, just so I could sleep for a while more. I had so much trouble getting us out of bed, out of the shower and getting both of us dressed. But it was so much fun. We were still kissing and nuzzling at the lobby, and then in the elevator. The fact that we were alone in the elevator didn't make it easier for us to extricate ourselves from each other. Normally, I am totally uncomfortable with such acts of affection in public, but well I guess passion is infectious and for a while he contemplated going back to the apartment for a quickie, but reason prevailed and decided against it cos I was running late. Still, we got a little carried away in the elevator (nothing grossly inappropriate, but just very passionate nuzzling), he more so than me, cos I was paranoid about spoiling my make-up.
Before he dropped me off at the office, he leaned over for a kiss and said 'I am not done with you yet, babe.'
Then he came by at 1pm again to send me to my facial and spa session, with a pleasant surprise. He had ordered a gift hamper for my parents, and intended it to be delivered to his apartment so that he could deliver it personally to them when he goes visiting with me, but for some reason, known only to his secretary, it was delivered to his office instead. I told him he should have just arranged for it to be delivered to my parents' directly. And he said he thought people showed up with gift hampers and oranges for Chinese New Year when they visit their gf's parents. He thought it would be unbecoming to visit empty-handed save for the oranges. What can I say, such a sweetie he is. He hasn't even met them formally. And he insisted on shopping around town to wait for me to finish my facial and spa. Such a charmer. It's so difficult not to love someone who's so thoughtful and considerate.
And I suggested going to my parents' for dinner and also to deliver the gift hamper since it's already in the car. I seriously had no idea how they will take to him. Though they have met him once or twice, those ocassions were very informal and very brief. But I guessed my worries were unfounded, either that or I underestimated his charm. Things went pretty well. I can still sense some cultural barrier but with time, effort and patience, it's not something that's insurmountable. I don't know if Nic is aware of the significance of such a formal meet-and-greet session with my parents and its implications in the Asian context, but I am not about to pressure him or me into anything. I think my parents have pretty much reconcile themselves to the fact that their wayward and aberrant daughter seems bent on dating a white guy. I don't particularly have a preference for white guys, just that no eligible Chinese guy seems to have crossed my path, nor are they even interested in me if they do (take the high school crush for example). But I guess the disapproving stares from some relatives are still something I have to learn to deal with. Not that I am all that bothered by them, I just feel bad that it might be somewhat uncomfortable for Nic. He doesn't deserve to go through this for me. But all in all, things are pretty optimistic, I think. He seems pretty happy and somewhat relieved I think, perhaps cos he has always thought that I am not as into him as he is me. I could tell he was feeling quite tired and bored cos he didn't understand a lot of the stuff that was said. All these Chinese New Year stuff seems quite novel to him initially, but after a while the novelty wears off. So we left quite early at about 9 plus, and it was a good decision as we were able to 'finish off what we started in the morning'. So go figure...
One revelation - Absence does make my heart grow fonder of him and also makes me realise how much I miss being around him. Suffice it to say it was some reunion on Monday night. haha... so lots of kissing and passionate sex just to make up for the lack of physical intimacy the last week. He said it's all he's been thinking about since he touched down. I was slightly upset with this remark, and held his face and asked him in all seriousness, ' thinking about this or me?'. And he cleverly replied, ' this with you' and tried to distract me by resuming his kissing. I wasn't at all distracted but well, what's new? The average guy thinks about sex all the time and what's more he's been starving for about one week. I wasn't about to take issue with him over this and ruin what would pan out to be a perfect evening. And luckily I didn't. Actually I know he didn't mean it this way, he's just too delirious to think straight. He playfully chided me for teasing him with all those photos I sent and only to come back so late when he had expected to see me at home, and whined some more about me not prioritising him over a night out with the gfs and was very upset that I didn't miss him as much he missed me etc etc... Nothing a good long kiss can't fix.
And he very nicely offered to send me to work the next day even though he did not have to go to the office that day, even though it meant he had to deprive his already sleep-and-rest- deprived body (he thinks his biological clock is all messed up, all thanks to the travelling and jet lag. well I tell him he's getting old... haha) of more hours of sleep and rest, just so I could sleep for a while more. I had so much trouble getting us out of bed, out of the shower and getting both of us dressed. But it was so much fun. We were still kissing and nuzzling at the lobby, and then in the elevator. The fact that we were alone in the elevator didn't make it easier for us to extricate ourselves from each other. Normally, I am totally uncomfortable with such acts of affection in public, but well I guess passion is infectious and for a while he contemplated going back to the apartment for a quickie, but reason prevailed and decided against it cos I was running late. Still, we got a little carried away in the elevator (nothing grossly inappropriate, but just very passionate nuzzling), he more so than me, cos I was paranoid about spoiling my make-up.
Before he dropped me off at the office, he leaned over for a kiss and said 'I am not done with you yet, babe.'
Then he came by at 1pm again to send me to my facial and spa session, with a pleasant surprise. He had ordered a gift hamper for my parents, and intended it to be delivered to his apartment so that he could deliver it personally to them when he goes visiting with me, but for some reason, known only to his secretary, it was delivered to his office instead. I told him he should have just arranged for it to be delivered to my parents' directly. And he said he thought people showed up with gift hampers and oranges for Chinese New Year when they visit their gf's parents. He thought it would be unbecoming to visit empty-handed save for the oranges. What can I say, such a sweetie he is. He hasn't even met them formally. And he insisted on shopping around town to wait for me to finish my facial and spa. Such a charmer. It's so difficult not to love someone who's so thoughtful and considerate.
And I suggested going to my parents' for dinner and also to deliver the gift hamper since it's already in the car. I seriously had no idea how they will take to him. Though they have met him once or twice, those ocassions were very informal and very brief. But I guessed my worries were unfounded, either that or I underestimated his charm. Things went pretty well. I can still sense some cultural barrier but with time, effort and patience, it's not something that's insurmountable. I don't know if Nic is aware of the significance of such a formal meet-and-greet session with my parents and its implications in the Asian context, but I am not about to pressure him or me into anything. I think my parents have pretty much reconcile themselves to the fact that their wayward and aberrant daughter seems bent on dating a white guy. I don't particularly have a preference for white guys, just that no eligible Chinese guy seems to have crossed my path, nor are they even interested in me if they do (take the high school crush for example). But I guess the disapproving stares from some relatives are still something I have to learn to deal with. Not that I am all that bothered by them, I just feel bad that it might be somewhat uncomfortable for Nic. He doesn't deserve to go through this for me. But all in all, things are pretty optimistic, I think. He seems pretty happy and somewhat relieved I think, perhaps cos he has always thought that I am not as into him as he is me. I could tell he was feeling quite tired and bored cos he didn't understand a lot of the stuff that was said. All these Chinese New Year stuff seems quite novel to him initially, but after a while the novelty wears off. So we left quite early at about 9 plus, and it was a good decision as we were able to 'finish off what we started in the morning'. So go figure...
# posted by Oddball @ 11:23 PM 
