Watch me spew poison...Hell knows no fury

Nic and I are in a 'cooling off' period now, as he calls it. But as far as I am concerned, we are done. I was in as much shock as everyone else. I discovered, and it doesn't matter how, he was seeing someone else on an on-off basis behind my back. And I confronted him with it and he admitted it. The truth was staring at us in the face and there was no denying, and that's why he admitted to it. I cannot live with infidelity. That's where I draw my line.

I don't know how long this has been going on, and I have no wish to find out. I can't be bothered frankly. I don't care if it's on a casual basis, semi-regular or adhoc basis. Whatever. Cheating is cheating is cheating. Period.

So it's not cooling off. It's over. He needs to understand this. Well, at least I made it crystal clear to him on my part. It shocked me as much as everyone else how adamant I am about this. It shocked the hell out of me when I first discovered his casual gf on the side. So am I the full-time live-in gf?

I am upset, in fact devastated, which is the reason for my decisiveness and determination to end this. But I am taking it well. The calm manner in which I am handling this shocks me a little too. Perhaps, once I discovered his cheating ways, my defense mechanisms are activated and he's seen as an enemy. And I don't get emotional over enemies. I just want to be far away from them. So I simply left on the same day.

There were no warning signs. It basically exploded in my face. I guess I am just naive. I naively thought everything was well. I love him so much, and I still do. Which is why the betrayal is so unforgivable. I can't even look him in the eye now. It scares me that the same person who showed me so much love, affection and tenderness is the same person who is capable of two-timing me. That Nic and this Nic. It's so scary.

Don't try to call me, Nic. I don't want to talk to you. I can't. I am afraid talking to you will weaken my resolve. And I am someone who can't live with infidelity. It is much too tiring to love someone with reservations. I can be persuaded, defintely, but I don't want to be.

There is nothing you can do to convince me you will not do this again. So just leave me alone for now. Frankly I don't know if I want this to end, but I am definitely not in the right state of mind to continue for now. I also know you have alot of pride but not a lot of patience. So I could very well pass the point of no return for us very soon. I don't want to lose you really, but I don't want to have our relatioship built on mistrust too.

Why did you do that? How could you do that? What do you do with her on your dates? Where do I stand in all of this? Do you think about me when you are with her? Do you think about her when you are with me? What are you hoping to get out of our relationship? Weren't we talking about marriage just couple of weeks back? I don't know. Who is she? How did you get to know her? Does she know about me? Is there more than one person you are seeing on the side? Maybe I am just another gf you are trying to keep from someone else. When did it start? I had so many questions going through my mind. But I didn't feel like asking any of them. They don't really matter. Bottomline is you did cheat on me. So the answers don't make a difference at all.

I can't bear the thought of you being tender and affectionate to anyone else in a romantic manner other than me. It hurts me in a way you can't imagine. It's like someone wringing my guts out. I broke down. Cried lots. Until I could cry no more. Then I left. I didn't pack cos deep in my heart, I didn't want things to end. I don't want to put a finality on this. There is something you can do, Nic, just that I don't know what.